Wow. Thanks for sharing this. I used to tutor a college student who had ADHD and dyslexia. I would often coach her on solving problems that would come up and how she could find resources at her school or from the different counselors she was seeing. Often, her mother would want to rush in and "rescue" her. Since I'm not a mom I told her mother that I could only treat her daughter like the adult I perceive her to be. Over time the daughter learned some valuable self advocacy skills that helped her with following a career path and getting a job she enjoyed.
I am completely in awe of your daughter's support system. She must be a sweetheart to have teen and young adult friends treat her with such kindness. If she wasn't pleasant to be around, I don't think her friends would be so eager to come to her aid. Ellie must have a beautiful heart.
Thank you for sharing your struggle with deciding when to help and when to stay put. It reminds me of that proverb "Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach him how to fish and you feed him for a lifetime". I'm also so encouraged by how your daughter has found supportive peers.
Wow. Thanks for sharing this. I used to tutor a college student who had ADHD and dyslexia. I would often coach her on solving problems that would come up and how she could find resources at her school or from the different counselors she was seeing. Often, her mother would want to rush in and "rescue" her. Since I'm not a mom I told her mother that I could only treat her daughter like the adult I perceive her to be. Over time the daughter learned some valuable self advocacy skills that helped her with following a career path and getting a job she enjoyed.
This is so great, Carol! I love how you held a boundary with the mom. You coached both the student and her mom! And it sounds like it really worked!
I am completely in awe of your daughter's support system. She must be a sweetheart to have teen and young adult friends treat her with such kindness. If she wasn't pleasant to be around, I don't think her friends would be so eager to come to her aid. Ellie must have a beautiful heart.
Thanks @Jane Anderson! I’m so grateful. I think Ellie has a beautiful heart, but of course I’m biased!
Thank you for sharing your struggle with deciding when to help and when to stay put. It reminds me of that proverb "Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach him how to fish and you feed him for a lifetime". I'm also so encouraged by how your daughter has found supportive peers.
Yes @Natasha Thapar-Olmos exactly! But sometimes it’s so hard as a mom to resist giving the fish. I’m also thankful for supportive peers for Ellie.